The greatest lesson I have learned this past year is to learn to not say, "If it had been me I would or wouldn’t have done___…." Until we are in a situation, we have no idea what we would or wouldn’t/could or couldn’t do.
Years ago I went to the wake of a seventeen year old boy who was being raised alone by his mom. He was her only child and had died in a car accident. After the wake, I visited a friend and cried while sitting at her kitchen table wondering how the mother could have been so calm. Had it been my child I would not have been able to go on. My friend wisely told me, "God does not give us grace in advance." He gives it to us when we need it and not before.
Guessing games are not a part of faith. If His "eye is on the sparrow," how much more will He minister to us? Am I guaranteed safety for my children and my spouse and my little grandbaby? No. Am I guaranteed comfort in sorrow and hope for tomorrow? Yes. Do I want to find out how I would react should tragedy visit my family? No. Can I be sure that God will not forsake me in my hour of trial? Yes.
Have I already known sorrow? Not in the sense that I have lost a child or spouse. The authority I speak with comes from God’s word and from friends who have lived through the loss of spouses and children. One in particular is my friend, C. Her husband was taken from her and their four children nearly two years ago at the age of 44. She, along with her brother-in-law have setup a website to help those who grieve. When I read it, I cried anew with and for them but I can see how it would help people who are experiencing similar situations. If you need help with your grief, please visit www.grievingwithapurpose.com. Even if you are not feeling a loss at this time I believe you will be blessed by this site.
I pray for you safety, warmth and blessed assurance. gail