A woman had a mother-in-law that was very hard to please
and they did not get along. So the daughter-in-law went
to an herbalist to get something with which to poison her
MIL. She explained her situation and the herbalist gave
her something to put in the MIL’s food and tea, but with
the warning that she should be as pleasant as possible so
that the MIL wouldn’t become suspicious. So the DIL began
using the herb and at the same time being more pleasant,
going out of her way to do nice things and over the course
of a month or more really becoming friends with her MIL.
In realizing what she had done she went back to the herbalist
and begged for an antidote to the poison she had been giving
her MIL. The herbalist just chuckled and said that she had
only been using a mixture of chamomile which helps upset
stomachs and ginseng which helps memory. But the real
medicine being used was a better attitude and selflessness
which strengthens all relationships. When focused on what
was wrong it was all she could see, but when focusing on
what was good she changed her perspective.

Copied from The Brat Factor 365 surprise. 

I’m surviving!  gail

42 responses to “Wisdom

  1. Thats a good one… I like it. Oh yes, I never even thought about having to get your night ears on for having Isabella stay over. Well, have fun and have a great Wednesday. 🙂 -S-

  2. Ciao G,
    Ha Ha ha ha, that was funny, thanks for tickling my funny bone this evening…. I am happy I stopped in for a visit.
    May God Bless You Bella.
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  3. Oh, you know you are having fun, G 🙂
    The tale is quite a thought provoker- how often are my difficulties with someone less about their behavior or more about my attitude?

  4. good example of how our attitude changes circumstances for the better !
    brought this for you :-
    ____0000000000______0000000000_____ __000________000__000________000___ _000___________0000___________000__ 000_____________00_____________000_ 000____________________________000_ 000___________THANKS__________000_ _000____________FOR___________000__ __000__________BEING_________000___ ___000__________MY_________000____ _____000______FRIEND______000______ _______000______________000________ _________000__________000__________ ____________000____000_____________ ______________000000_______________ ________________00_________________ TODAY IS THANK A FRIEND DAY !!!!!!PASS THIS TO ALL YOUR FRIENDS HERE IN BLOGLAND.JUST TO LET THEM KNOW YOU WERE THINKING ABOUT
    peace be with you
    hugs for you & Isabella from Fergus & myself X

  5. Hi Gail,
    Great story and I can apply that so many places. You ask a question once, well it happedd tonight. I was a cow calf , she hates it. Walk all over it and buntted the poor thing and I told Bob to get it out maybe for awhile and he said give it abit more time. Now she likes it, Its up running around the pen and is an hour old and I am so glad she didnt hurt, it. First one this year and it wont be the last and is hard to watch. and sometimes they never to like it.
    Have a great night

  6. Hey G, I have been meaning to email you, but I haven’t gotten around to it as yet.  However, I will because we have to talk about the island stuff:)  How are you doing otherwise?  I am trying hard to focus on the positive these days………..Hugs.

    I love what you said; "The word doesn’t change.  We change and the Spirit of God enlightens as we need it."
    That makes a lot of sense… It also agrees with what I learned about fresh manna.
    Thanks Gail!
    That was just what I needed to hear!

  8. this little tale is lovely Gail. Yes, it starts with our own attitude, on how we’re going to think of someone and how we’re going to treat them, despite circumstances and how we feel. 🙂
    Well, the week went by fast didn’t it? 🙂 You did well! 🙂
    My dinner went really well too! there was so much food, but somehow, the guests finished almost every drop of it. 🙂 I’m glad. IT was a good timeof chatting and catching up and just being together.
    For Chinese dinner? I agree with you, sharp knife, very important! haha…and to make things fast, one of those "pounder" made of hard granite/stone (not sure what you call it), to pound garlic and ginger. haha… and two to three chopping boards.
    ok, will end here. yOu take good care and have a blessed weekend!
    love from all here

  9. Hi Gail,  To bad we can’t all be as smart as the herbalist…I once told Lisa, one of my favorite sayings is by Dr W Dyer – "When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change".  All too often we are looking for faults in others rather than their virtues.  Great story and another reminder for me to apply it once again to my children!!  Sheila

  10. today is the day …I am sure that dd appreciates what you do for her gail …have a good weekend
    love and blessings
    ps fergus cried when  he had to go home with his mamma & dadda without me  yesterday morning ..he wants us all 🙂

  11. That was a good thought for me to read today.  A co-worker put me out a bit this morning, and I let it get to me.  After reading your tale, I realized that my co-worker didn’t HAVE to get me all bothered, I allowed her to.  I feel much better since changing my attitude.  Thanks for the reminder, sweetie!  Have a great weekend!

  12. Nik and Eric got in yesterday and I am having a ball.  Of course the real deal starts when she heads back on Sunday to take care of business.  Something about that little one — I could just watch him for hours.  He is such a serious one — with little bursts of joy here and there that sometiimes catch one by surprise.
    Funny how with the kids around once again I am feeling that old energy and purpose come back.
    I hope you are having a great weekend.  It was so icy this morning with sleet and freezing rain, but it has warmed up and is only raining now – melting things and creating giant puddles.  Tomorrow is supposed to be 43 degrees.  I hope theres some sun with that.
    Take care

  13. 55?  Oh I’m sooo jealous. 
    Door guards – I knew I was forgetting something.  I remembered to put the corner guards back on the coffee and end tables.  That’s a point right?

  14.  Shawn is doing better, and so is Kristin. It’s me and hubby that are trying to fight it off now!
    I hope you are well. When does your daughter get home? Are you keeping up with Bells ok?

  15. Hi Gail,
    I’m back after a week, I’ve got no self control I tell ya.  Oh well, I should get at least a C for effort. 🙂
    Thanks for the email, it was nice hearing from some of my blogger buddies while I was out.  Actually, the time away was good.  However, I just love to write, so, what are you going to do?!?!
    I really liked this little story.  Makes you really think about your attitude and want to do a little adjustment here and there!
    Take care,

  16. Words to live by.
    In the beginning, my MIL was not nice to me, but I was nice to her and after about 16 years, she began to think that I was the salt of the earth. More’s the pity – I didn’t care how she felt about me by that time.
    Then after what I found out about her and the FIL a couple of years ago, I care even less now.
    It’s a sad tale…we only talk to each other about once a year (that is only if we go to visit – which isn’t going to happen much anymore) and I don’t think she cares if she talks to me at all. It’s mutual. 
    She doesn’t talk to my kids, (her grandchildren) or their kids (her great grandkids). She calls Hubby (her oldest son) on his birthday and talks for about 3 minutes.
    Her reasoning lies in the old saying, "out of sight, out of mind".
    But, in general, it all really is about attitude!

  17. that is a very wise lesson today Gail.
    thank you for posting
    we need to remain positive even in the face of negatives
    God bless!

  18. Ciao G,
    Thanks for your visit and comment.
    Yes, we are also getting nice weather here too, today maybe not so nice as last week, but we are forcasted for rain in the week to follow, but it is a good thing as we have been having temps of up to 26° already. Nice, really very nice with the roses all in bloom as well, but the humidity here is really very bad. I love the heat, but the humidity is something that is had to get used to.
    Hope that you are doing well and having a great Sunday G.
    Have a great week to follow as well.
    God Bless You.
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  19. I loved that story.  Very good one!  If we only changed our attitude we would be so much better.  You can actually kill people with kindness.  Hope you are having a great weekend! 

  20. Ciao G,
    Thank you for stopping in and for the sweet comment. Actually your comment was funny. Yes… I can read it very well, but I am sorry if you are having a hard time…but I can see the blue print ok.
    Ohh, I wanted to let you know that there is a vote on the right hand side of my blog regarding Christians and Muslims….also a clip below it…the clip is in arabic, but the subtitles are in English…it is worth the watch someday you get time. The Muslims are stating that they want to take over the world, esp. America….
    Hope that you have a great day..
    God Bless You Bella.
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  21. What a nice story!
    Yup, we’re usually the guilty ones… and our bad attitudes.
    Have a great day Gail.
    I’m sure you’ve got your hands full!

  22. Yer too funny too!  Actually, I heard it through the grapevine that Mama would say that so I made sure and only did that when she wasn’t looking so she wouldn’t say that…
    Love ya!!!
    Carol 🙂

  23. Hi Gail,  Yep Tina is a real go getter.  She’s been married 3 times and was engaged for the 4th time recently.  But that relationship recently ended.  So we were out on the town!  LOL….I think she is far more desperate than me.  But she is fun to go out with and do things with.  I may have her talked into going to church since we went to the coffee house at the church.  That would be a great accomplishment.  I will convert her yet!  Hope you have a great week!

  24. hello dear gail,
    I managed to get out of my warm comfortable bed to catch up around a few spaces this morning 🙂
    wondering how things are going for you now that Bells has her mama back home .I hope you had a restful weekend & time for yourself .
    we had Fergus overnight on saturday so that J& Z could celebrate a friends wedding …I slipped with Fergus under my arm ,we both survived he unharmed and myself a huge lump on my head a  massive bruise on my elbow and a very stiff & sore left arm & ribs .
    that will teach me to put slippers on myself as well as the baby !
    peace and joy be yours

  25.  Just wanted to stop by and say hello:) I hope you have a wonderful day! I pray for a pleasant Mother-in-Law and hope one day God blesses me with a loving one.A Mother of any sorts is a blessing:).

  26. Hi Gail,
    When I woke this morning the Lord gave me a gift, and a Promise, " Weeping may endure for a night but Joy Cometh in the Morning " and I dont know where that is in the Bible but I know it is there.
    Love and Hugs Always

  27. Wow, 40 comments. Is that a record? I can see why so many of us visit you though. You’re a breath of fresh air.  As far as your entry today….convicting.  Truthful and convicting.

  28.  Miss G
     I am sorry if my post seemed a bit over the edge.I am going through that wonderful "change of life" 🙂 and my emotions are in an uproar.LOL Sorry about ranting  but I am meducation free and the only symptom seems to be the emotional roller coaster.Believe me thats as bad as it gets:).I am a bit angry because Richard and I are getting attacked by the freaks and that has alot to do with it.You can whine to me anytime:)…
    I am going to another blog site I will leave the link http://sweetlifeanddreams.blogspot.com I hope you can stop in from time to time.

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