When my friend, N, started to lose her hair during chemotherapy, her husband suggested to me that the ladies of our church cell group might want to shave their heads in unity with her. Remembering how another friend who had lost her hair to chemo would have been angry if we had done that I told him I didn’t think it was a good idea. Plus, I didn’t want to!
Fast forward a number of months and I told N about the conversation and she said she wouldn’t have minded if we had. What?!? The sweetest, nicest person in the world would have wanted us to shave our heads and suffer alongside her whilst it grew in? I was shocked!
Fast forward a few more months when N had finally grown some peach fuzz on that bald head. I thought about it and thought about it and I told her I would cut the back of my hair to about a half inch on the lower half and keep it that length until hers was the same length and we would grow our hair out together. (Bet you thought I was going to say I would shave my head. I’m a good friend but I told her that, unless it would make her recovery complete, I would not shave my head!)
So, I go to my friend, M, and get my hair cropped up in the back as well as shortening my signature bob a bit. I loved it! It was what I had been wanting for for a while now and finally got it.
A day or two later I go to N’s house and show her what I did for her (cough, cough). She said it wasn’t short enough. That ungrateful brat! Even though part of it was as short as I said it would be I have to be honest and say that the whole idea was to be on a par – although on a smaller scale – with N’s hair growth.
Well, yesterday, I picked N up and we went to see M and have my hair shorn some more. There was no way I would go without her in case she was going to continue being a brat! I had to have a witness. N is almost completely pleased. She would have liked a bit more taken off but M said that taking off any more would "destroy the integrity of the style." Bless you M!
Moral of this story: choose one
a) hair grows
b) even the nicest, sweetest people in the world can be brats
c) love can make you do strange things
d) all of the above
Pictures, hopefully, to follow. blessings, g
P.S. I want to make it clear that my head is not shaved. It is just very, very short in the back!