"Unforgiveness is the poison we drink hoping others will die."
Forgiveness is something that was, and sometimes still is, a problem for me. The above quote says it all. When I refuse to forgive it doesn’t bother the person who has offended me. It hurts me. Here are some thoughts and insight on forgiveness:
What forgiveness is not:
– It is not a feeling. It is a conscious decision. Even if you don’t feel like forgiving, if you act the forgiveness the feeling will eventually catch up with the action.
– It is not forgetting. We aren’t made that way. We have memories but we need to make thinking about offenses less prominent in our thoughts.
– It is not excusing. "Forgiveness is the opposite of excusing." Ken Sande
Forgiveness is a decision to make four promises:
– I will not think about this incident.
– I will not bring it up against you.
– I will not talk to others about this.
– I will not allow this incident to stand between us or hinder our personal relationship.
These thoughts and more were taught from my pastor’s pulpit yesterday and are based on teachings from the book The Peace Maker by Ken Sande. If it has caught your interest, I will talk more about peace making and forgiveness. Let me know, or, as Pastor D would say, "Lemme know."
I can’t believe I have been seeing leaves changing color already! A fact I mentioned a couple of years ago is that, when leaves change color, they are showing their true colors! The green masks their colorful beauty (although the green is beautiful in and of itself).
What are some of your favorite things about autumn? (I know some of you don’t have seasons like I do but use your imagination!): I love the beautiful colors of the leaves and the smells of autumn. Fireplaces and woodburning stoves sending out their delightful fragrance is one of those smells.
Does autumn make you sad because of the end of summer and the leaves coming down or happy? I love autumn. I don’t like it when the trees are bare and I don’t like the shorter daylight hours but I am happy when the heat of summer is gone and I am in awe of the beauty all around me.
Do you get SAD (seasonal affective disorder) from the shorter daylight hours? Last winter was the first time I think I dealt with this.
Talk to me. Have a great week, g