I hope not. After a week of calm and decluttering, I hope I can maintain what I have achieved and continue even further. This is not usually a house of calm and tidiness. From what I gather, especially from Flylady, clutter is a symptom of a greater issue.
For me that issue is a feeling of not being able to control my surroundings. I have finally realized that, no, I can not control the actions of the people around me. However, I can control my own behaviors. When I change my behavior, those around me often change theirs as well.
Case in point: I was shopping in my local grocery store and I stopped to ask an employee where something was. He continued what he was doing and then asked, "What?" in not the nicest tone of voice. I gave him one of Aimee’s patented big smiles and he couldn’t do enough for me. When he couldn’t find the item I was asking for, he suggested another place it might be in the store (it is a very big place). I smiled again and thanked him and was on my way. Several aisles down, he caught up with me and told me exactly where to find the item!
Same thing happened in another aisle with another employee. I suppose they get so many complaints that a smile and a kind word makes their day!
What I am getting at here is that if you wait for others to change you will wait forever. Changing your own attitude will either help them to change OR make it a heck of a lot easier for you to cope!
I’m not saying this is an easy thing to do. I’ve been working at it for years! However, with the right attitude, life is so much simpler. With God’s grace, the process will continue.
When you are stressed out, what do you tend to do to cope? Is it a healthy or not? I tend to isolate. It is only unhealthy if I stay that way, wallow in self-pity and don’t communicate.
Do you have one person in particular you talk to when you are stressed? First, the most important person for me to chat with is God. He is so real that He is approachable and loves me more than anyone in this world can. Then, depending on the situation, I have several people I can contact. If I know I am overreacting, I call L who is very laid back. For other situations, there are other people. I am so blessed!
Are you an anxiety eater? Oh, yea.
Who can make you crazier than anyone else? Himself, of course! Why do you think I need to change my attitude?!
What’s up for the weekend? I’m not really sure here. The weather is beautiful so there are lots of options.
be blessed, g
Ooo – I nearly forgot! Happy Thanksgiving to my friends up north in Canada! (thanks Linda)